Confucius said, "if you bow to yourself and blame others, then you will have a long way to complain." it means that to be a man, especially a gentleman, it is important to strictly demand and blame yourself, and to take a tolerant attitude towards people. When blaming and criticizing others, you should try to be gentle and tolerant, so that naturally you will not incur resentment.
This is also true in our real life, which requires us to do more self reflection in our daily work and study, and at the same time, less blame others, as an important principle for people to live in the world. In life, people tend to forgive themselves, excuse themselves and cover up their faults and shortcomings. Instead, they often blame others and blame others for their mistakes or faults. Not only do they lose the opportunity to reflect on themselves and find their own shortcomings, but they also arouse others' opposition, complaint and even hatred.
However, as Zeng Guofan said, "strict in self-interest, lenient in treating others", there are many examples: when Wei Zheng was the official of Prince Li Jiancheng in Tang Dynasty, he had repeatedly advised Li Jiancheng to kill Li Shimin, but after the Xuanwumen incident, Li Shimin not only didn't kill him, but also paid great attention to Wei Zheng. Finally, the prosperity and development of the early Tang Dynasty was realized, and the Zhenguan era appeared. In the story, Li Shimin held a tolerant attitude towards Wei Zheng and won the hearts of the people. In the same way, Lin Xiangru was granted the title of Shangqing because of his merit in "returning to Zhao with perfect skills", which was based on incorruptibility. Lian Po is very unconvinced and threatens to humiliate Lin Xiangru face to face. When Lin Xiangru learned about it, he tried to avoid and allow it as much as possible, and didn't conflict with Lian Po. Lin Xiangru's disciples thought that he was afraid of Lian Po. However, Lin Xiangru said, "Qin dare not invade Zhao because of me and general Lian. My tolerance for general Lian is to put the national crisis in the front and personal hatred in the back. "When Lian Po heard this, he had the story of" pleading guilty to a thorn. ".
Countless old sayings and classic stories tell us that we should compare our hearts, be strict with ourselves and treat others with leniency. On the one hand, it is a blessing to have a loss mentality. In the face of the temptation of interests, in the face of other people's misunderstanding, keep a tolerant heart to face; on the other hand, really do transposition thinking. In the face of right and wrong, think from the perspective of others, truly understand the difficulties of others, and really be understanding.